It’s self-explanatory. True Selves: Understanding Transsexualism–For Families, Friends, Coworkers, and Helping Professionals is a good book for anyone struggling to understand transsexualism – whether you’re finding it difficult to accept a family member, a friend, or just trying to come to terms with your own gender identity, this book is the gentle nudge that can (probably) help. My uncle once told me that knowing someone personally, or becoming friends with a person who identifies as gay (or transsexual) is usually enough to teach someone that it’s nothing to be feared or ashamed of. For those who have yet to cross paths with a trans-identified person, this book can easily become that friend. With a simple and straight-forward approach, clinical sexologist Mildred Brown guides the reader directly into the hearts of those who live with mind/body incongruence. Relying heavily on her extensive experience with transsexual patients and friends, Brown reveals the harsh reality and trauma that accompanied her patients through childhood and adolescence. The stories and poetry written by her transsexual patients exposes raw emotional pain, and this is what makes the book interesting. There’s also a list of resources at the end of the book for transsexuals who need support, which is always much appreciated.
how can i deal with my dysphoria? i really hate myself today
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“Our Best Tip for Trans Men — Share Your Stories”: thoughts from Geoff Watland of ‘Transforming Practice’, the first book for health providers working with transgender menPosted: March 24, 2013
|Transforming Practice: Life Stories of Transgender Men that Change How Health Providers Work is an exploration of life satisfaction, health and wellness among transgender men, as told in their own words.
While many focus on what is wrong with trans people, trans-ally Marcus Greatheart asked satisfied, post-transition trans men what worked well in order that health providers might better support those questioning or struggling with gender transition.
Grounded in a strengths-based model, he explores the contexts and implications of both social and medical transition in the lives of trans guys from the US and Canada.
Our Best Tip for Trans Men — Share Your Stories
by Goeff Watland
I am a trans* ally and I’ve recently made the decision to focus my activism to encourage and assist trans* folks to share their success stories. As you’re probably well aware there’s a lot of information out there already about transition. The odd thing that I’ve discovered through my work is that there’s significant evidence to support that trans* folks aren’t sharing their successes with other trans* folks. There’s a trend for elders within these communities to isolate themselves from less experienced trans* folks and many instances when the advice and stories that are shared often focus on the negative and not on the positive. While it’s discouraging to hear that these stories aren’t often shared, it’s good to know that there are plenty of success stories out there. I’ve come to these conclusions after basically stumbling onto some work helping publish a research study over the past few years.
A couple years ago my friend, Marcus Greatheart, was completing his Graduate research and he asked me to help him out with finishing his thesis about trans men. He needed a second pair of eyes to look over what had become too familiar for him and a friend to help him finish what he was just weeks away from completing. The study he completed was on trans men who were “generally satisfied” with their lives and the factors that contributed to their “self-satisfaction.” He would have used the word happy instead of “satisfied” but happy is actually a vague and relative term when you think about it and Academia wasn’t going to go for it. What came of that study is now a book that we’ve just launched called Transforming Practice: Life Stories of Transgender Men that Change How Health Providers Work (Toronto: Ethica Press, 2013).
The book is primarily geared toward health care providers, but it uses moving and powerful firsthand stories from trans men to illustrate key points, making it a more approachable read to general audiences. I know from speaking to trans* friends that a trip to the doctor, a counselor or a social worker is hardly ever an easy, cut and dry process. Even a routine visit can be derailed with educating providers about basic trans* health and identity issues. Marcus and I hope that the book can help guys out in these situations, instead of having to educate providers. I hope someone can visit their providers and say something akin to, “There’s a really great book that goes into greater depth about the unique issues relevant to trans guys like myself, here’s the title. Now can we talk about my ingrown toenail which is the real reason I came in here?”
|Living in New York for the past thirteen years Lee Penman has contributed to ‘Natural Bodybuilding and Fitness’, ‘Exercise For Men’, Musclesportmag.com and Bodybuilding.com. He is currently staff writer for the ‘doctors of…’ group and ifitfamily.com, Editor at http://www.kickasswomen.com, writer for RXmuscle.com, female muscle.com and also personal assistant to IFBB Pro Bodybuilder Colette Nelson MS CDE RD.|
To officially get this column rolling lets take a look at one of the most important steps when it comes to creating the new you…honestly evaluating where you are now and deciding what look you want to go for as your end result.
Look at your general structure…are your shoulders wide or narrow? Waist thick or slim? Legs muscular or on the skinny side? Arms flabby or firm? Are you a little overweight or could you stand to gain weight?
All very basic questions but the answers will help you to form a picture in your mind of the body you want to build. Guys generally have wider backs and shoulders and more muscular arms.
|“Written in the hard-boiled, noir style of detective fiction from the 1940′s, Arty Shaw is the kind of investigator you want on your side. Transsexual and proud of it, with a moral code that means breaking the rules now and again, and a world weary cynicism that takes nothing at face value, Arty won’t stop until the truth is out. And, that can make you unpopular with the wrong sort of people.”
Author: Vic Tanner Davy is a writer of historical fiction. Born in London, Vic now lives in the Channel Islands. Vic has been a writer and amateur historian for decades, with a special interest in British history between the wars, and the German occupation of the Channel Islands (1940-1945). Vic’s writing also examines issues of gender, an area in which Vic is interested, being transgender.
Within the past two months I was offered the opportunity to read and review a new novel written by Vic Tanner Davy, an English author and fellow trans man. I typically do not gravitate toward mystery novels, and so it was with some trepidation that I began to read Davy’s noir style of writing. However, I quickly found the elements so common to noir mysteries — namely, a dark and cynical sense of humor — to be quite to my liking. It draws you further into the character a lot more rapidly than normal, making for a very enjoyable and relatable protagonist.
Furthermore, the plot of the story surprisingly left me rapidly flipping the pages, eager to discover more about the mystery that was slowly being unraveled. The novel follows a genealogist and amateur historian named Arty Shaw, who has undertaken a job for a well-known British actress. His original goal was to uncover the story of her grandmother for an upcoming TV show appearance; however, the further he goes into her past, the more intricate the grandmother’s story starts to become. A possible WWII casualty and a spy behind enemy lines is only the tip of the iceberg when Shaw travels to Dresden to determine the real fate of Kay Marett.
Despite the appearance of themes with which myself, as well as the general reader, may be unacquainted, Davy does quite well with explaining and expounding upon these myriad topics such as WWII resistance and entartete Kunst (or, for you non-German speakers, degenerate art). While the amount of detail presented becomes easily overwhelming, Davy is able to bring subtle reminders into the narrative which ease the task of trying to remember everything when first explained. Another theme, that of Arty Shaw’s past transition from female to male, is not as complex, and in fact remains unmentioned until at least thirty pages into the novel. The cover blurb would have the reader believe otherwise, proclaiming Shaw to be “transsexual and proud of it”; however, it was only later in the story that Shaw’s status as trans became even remotely important, let alone mentioned. Perhaps especially as a transgender reader, I found Shaw’s ultimate reveal of his gender identity to his gorgeous patron to be quite cliché, during a scene in which the actress tries to seduce our protagonist and realizes that certain attributes are missing. That being said, Davy finds clever and downright inventive ways of integrating Shaw’s transsexuality into the action following his travels to Dresden.
Ultimately, I found Davy’s novel to be engaging and enjoyable. While it became almost necessary to skim over the copious amount of detail, which at times confused the flow of the story, I enjoyed the topics addressed in the novel, as well as the way in which they were presented. Davy created a unique protagonist that I had no trouble in relating to, or in choosing to follow on his sometimes harrowing journey to uncover the truth behind a brave WWII resistance operative.
Should anyone wish to receive a copy of Davy’s novel, feel free to e-mail Liberation Publishing at firstname.lastname@example.org. Alternatively, you can comment on this post and provide your e-mail address to be sent an information file with contact and pricing information. Happy reading!
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Im a transman and I’ve been on T for about 3 months. Anyway, when i meet one of my girlfriends friends or family or random people she introduces me as her “boygirl” friend instead of boyfriend. Which is inappropriate and outs me every damn time. Ive tried to talk to her but she doesn’t understand. She said i am a boygirl cuz i was born a girl…What do i do?