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Q&A: Tips on how to have sex with a strap on if you arent out to your girlfriend?

Question:

Tips on how to have sex with a strap on if you arent out to your girlfriend?

 


 

Answer by Nash from TfTM on 8/1/2012:

 

I’m not sure I can actually offer advice on that exact question. I don’t want to infer anything incorrect — but it sounds like you may be considering having sex with a partner of yours without revealing that you’re trans or that you’re using a strap-on. I’d actually ask you to reconsider why it’s important to you to have sex with someone — while also feeling the need for them not to know these things. If this is someone you care about, someone you want to be intimate with, and plan on having in your life for a while, your trans status will inevitably be revealed. And, if you use a strap-on during sex with your girlfriend, there’s certainly a chance it will be revealed during sex.

If it isn’t revealed then, it will probably come to light at a different time. I believe it’s deceitful to be using a strap-on with your partner without their knowledge — and I would advise you not to do so. Your partner may be upset when they find out that they had an idea of the experience that isn’t accurate. Your partner may not want to have strap-on sex and may feel violated that you engaged her in strap-on sex without her active consent to that activity. You may also want to consider how your partner feels about their own gender and sexuality as theirs is just as important as yours.

 

Answer by Lee from TfTM on 8/1/2012:

 

I agree with everyone here in that your trans status is bound to come out at some time if this is someone you intend having a real relationship with.

I can’t see any way that she would not realise you were using a strap on even if you had one of the latest and greatest. In saying that though, if you are open and honest with her she is likely to enjoy the experience more. You will also not be subject to any performance inability that some bio men encounter AND you will be able to last a whole lot longer.

If she loves you she will hopefully be able to receive this info more and if she is adventurous she may just love it.
Look at it like this….you are a whole lot more versatile and creative than a lot of bio guys…you can bring other toys into the act too…no doubt making your girlfriend VERY happy :)

 

Answer by James from TfTM on 8/1/2012:

I think it’s time to man up and have a conversation. Sex is supposed to be an intimate experience; and while it isn’t always saved for “the one” or what have you, if you care about your girlfriend and see it going anywhere, you owe it to both of you to just be honest.

 

Answer by Wes Austin on 8/1/2012:

My first suggestion would be to sit down with the girlfriend and disclose. I feel it’s very hard to base a relationship on secrecy. With that said, I understand that it’s often very hard to come out to loved ones and there is bound to be a lot of fear, hurt and anger.

As for sex with an unknown strap on. The only way I could think would be with the lights off and covers on. One thing you’ll have to contend with is the fact that your cock won’t soften after sex. I expect your girlfriend will eventually realize and wonder if she’s able to satisfy you.


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One Comment on “Q&A: Tips on how to have sex with a strap on if you arent out to your girlfriend?”

  1. Amir says:

    These answers are great! Frankly, I never thought it that way.
    Lee: ” You will also not be subject to any performance inability that some bio men encounter AND you will be able to last a whole lot longer.”
    Wes Austin: “One thing you’ll have to contend with is the fact that your cock won’t soften after sex. I expect your girlfriend will eventually realize and wonder if she’s able to satisfy you.”


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