how can i deal with my dysphoria? i really hate myself today
“Our Best Tip for Trans Men — Share Your Stories”: thoughts from Geoff Watland of ‘Transforming Practice’, the first book for health providers working with transgender menPosted: March 24, 2013
|Transforming Practice: Life Stories of Transgender Men that Change How Health Providers Work is an exploration of life satisfaction, health and wellness among transgender men, as told in their own words.
While many focus on what is wrong with trans people, trans-ally Marcus Greatheart asked satisfied, post-transition trans men what worked well in order that health providers might better support those questioning or struggling with gender transition.
Grounded in a strengths-based model, he explores the contexts and implications of both social and medical transition in the lives of trans guys from the US and Canada.
Our Best Tip for Trans Men — Share Your Stories
by Goeff Watland
I am a trans* ally and I’ve recently made the decision to focus my activism to encourage and assist trans* folks to share their success stories. As you’re probably well aware there’s a lot of information out there already about transition. The odd thing that I’ve discovered through my work is that there’s significant evidence to support that trans* folks aren’t sharing their successes with other trans* folks. There’s a trend for elders within these communities to isolate themselves from less experienced trans* folks and many instances when the advice and stories that are shared often focus on the negative and not on the positive. While it’s discouraging to hear that these stories aren’t often shared, it’s good to know that there are plenty of success stories out there. I’ve come to these conclusions after basically stumbling onto some work helping publish a research study over the past few years.
A couple years ago my friend, Marcus Greatheart, was completing his Graduate research and he asked me to help him out with finishing his thesis about trans men. He needed a second pair of eyes to look over what had become too familiar for him and a friend to help him finish what he was just weeks away from completing. The study he completed was on trans men who were “generally satisfied” with their lives and the factors that contributed to their “self-satisfaction.” He would have used the word happy instead of “satisfied” but happy is actually a vague and relative term when you think about it and Academia wasn’t going to go for it. What came of that study is now a book that we’ve just launched called Transforming Practice: Life Stories of Transgender Men that Change How Health Providers Work (Toronto: Ethica Press, 2013).
The book is primarily geared toward health care providers, but it uses moving and powerful firsthand stories from trans men to illustrate key points, making it a more approachable read to general audiences. I know from speaking to trans* friends that a trip to the doctor, a counselor or a social worker is hardly ever an easy, cut and dry process. Even a routine visit can be derailed with educating providers about basic trans* health and identity issues. Marcus and I hope that the book can help guys out in these situations, instead of having to educate providers. I hope someone can visit their providers and say something akin to, “There’s a really great book that goes into greater depth about the unique issues relevant to trans guys like myself, here’s the title. Now can we talk about my ingrown toenail which is the real reason I came in here?”
|Living in New York for the past thirteen years Lee Penman has contributed to ‘Natural Bodybuilding and Fitness’, ‘Exercise For Men’, Musclesportmag.com and Bodybuilding.com. He is currently staff writer for the ‘doctors of…’ group and ifitfamily.com, Editor at http://www.kickasswomen.com, writer for RXmuscle.com, female muscle.com and also personal assistant to IFBB Pro Bodybuilder Colette Nelson MS CDE RD.|
To officially get this column rolling lets take a look at one of the most important steps when it comes to creating the new you…honestly evaluating where you are now and deciding what look you want to go for as your end result.
Look at your general structure…are your shoulders wide or narrow? Waist thick or slim? Legs muscular or on the skinny side? Arms flabby or firm? Are you a little overweight or could you stand to gain weight?
All very basic questions but the answers will help you to form a picture in your mind of the body you want to build. Guys generally have wider backs and shoulders and more muscular arms.
Im a transman and I’ve been on T for about 3 months. Anyway, when i meet one of my girlfriends friends or family or random people she introduces me as her “boygirl” friend instead of boyfriend. Which is inappropriate and outs me every damn time. Ive tried to talk to her but she doesn’t understand. She said i am a boygirl cuz i was born a girl…What do i do?
I identify as transmasculine genderqueer.
And I’ve been working with my therapist on options that I have for hormone therapy.
I want a “partial transition” as I think some people have called it.
I want a more masculine appearance. In my face, my body. A little bit more body hair. I want a lower voice, but not for it to drop. I guess you could say I want a more androgyny voice. I do want a more muscular appearance. I do not however want to grow a micropenis.
I was wondering if you had any suggestions?
About partial transitioning, different kinds of t, any resources, advice, passing tips, etc.?